Writing Your Own Wedding Vows and Promises

by | Oct 31, 2022 | Weddings

Vows and Promises Personal To You

Writing your own Wedding Vows and Promises can add Magic to your Special Day!

Have you ever thought about writing your wedding vows and promises? Probably some of the most important words you will ever say. They can be personal and really set the mood of your day and of your life together.

Personal and Imtimate

Your wedding vows are your promises. These vows and promises need to be kept through the good and the challenging times so it is important that you carefully consider what you are going to say.

The thought of writing your own wedding vows can be quite intimidating. You might be worried that the words you write have to be incredibly insightful, robust declarations of your love. It’s probably the only time in your life when you will publicly declare your feelings for your partner, so there is added pressure to say just the right thing. All of this makes it tempting to use your traditional vows or declarations but honestly, we have heard many vows here at Brookfield Hall and they are all equally beautiful, unique and intimate. They give your guests a snapshot of the love that you and your partner share.

Create your Own Wedding Vows
Create your Own Wedding Vows

Where to Start?

Oh, but where to start is something often exclaimed. The first thing you should consider is that are you going to say the same vows to each other or are you going to write your own for each other. If you choose to write them separately, are you keeping them a secret for the big day or sharing them with each other beforehand?

Writing together can be less of a pressure and gives you chance to talk through lots of ideas about your wedding and your marriage. On the other hand, what a romantic element of your day. To hear the words of promise and love for the first time at such an intimate moment. It is a good idea to make sure that they are the same length and will take a similar time to say, as this will keep your ceremony running smoothly.

Traditional or Personal?
Traditional or Personal?

Taking Inspiration

Writing your own vows means there are no rules! Your vows and promises can be shared in your own words. You can take inspiration from your shared experiences, your plans for the future, your similarities and your differences. Your vows and promises will reflect your life together in the now and also in the future. Reminding each other that from your wedding day, yours is a shared future where possibility is not stemmed by being alone but are endless as a pair and a team.

You can also take inspiration from favourite, places, trips, books and films. Asking relatives and friends how they see your partnership can also give you ideas and even words if they are struggling to come to you.

Some questions to ask yourself could include

  • How did you know when you were in love?
  • What did you think of them when you first met?
  • What are your favourite things about them?
  • What does your ideal future with them hold?
  • What have you done together that you never would have done on your own?
Personal Wedding Vows and Promises
Personal Wedding Vows and Promises

Perfect Words in the Perfect Place

Whatever the words you choose, we look forward to hearing them in one of our lovely wedding rooms. Your wedding vows and promises will be perfectly placed in our amazing wedding venue. Our wedding team will make sure that you feel confident, (if a little nervous) to say your vows and promises loud and clear for all to know the love you have for your partner.